Frustration.

How do y'all deal with frustration on the course. Yes I know we all can not hit the best shot every shot but what are some of y'alls tips and tricks to keep a level head throughout the round. I am shooting mid 80's to high/mid 70's right now and honestly my mental game is keeping me from being constantly in the 70's if not lower.  

Think about the next shot, not any of the previous ones. And always remember, there are no pictures on the scorecard.  So if you hit a couple bad shots, there's always the potential to scramble and get up and down for par (at your level, possibly bogey or double for a higher handicap), without a blemish on the card.  Pretty soon you'll see those boring 4's all want to hang out together on the card.    

I would be lying if I said I haven't played a full round with a post-it note in my pocket written by my coach that said one word "TEMPO" to help me focus on the task at hand.

Sometimes the sound of Mike Breed's "LET'S DO THIS" helps as well.  Go to your happy place and hit the next shot. Close.

Best of luck,

CH

 

You're not yourself when you're hungry. Grab a Snickers.

Seriously though, I tend to lose it when I am dehydrated and or low on calories. Snacking during the round may help.

Beer? 

There are so many variables to golf, and the game itself. As golfers we have to forget about expectations. That is my problem right now. Playing tension free, and focusing on always accelerating the club through the ball. Go easy on yourself and try to be patient. Keep your routine consistent, even on the range practicing. 

Ahh the 6 inches between the ears...  Tough to deal with.  I just had my first round of the club championship and had posted a 77 on day 1.  I was in the final group and had a really REALLY bad start.  I caught a bad break off the opening tee shot and compounded it with a 3 putt.  I then topped my next two tee shots with my hybrid- they were straight worm burners.  I started pressing and ended up in more tough places.  I started the day 10 over through 6.  After that 6th hole I "gave up" on the score.  I just wanted to try and salvage the round somehow.   I ended up playing decently the rest of the way in, shot an 87, and made the cut.  

I really wish I had stopped thinking such poor thoughts after the first hole and stuck with the game plan.  When you're feeling frustrated, don't do what I did.  Trying to make up for poor play just makes things worse.  Just focus on the upcoming shot and play for par.  My Grandpa always said, once you hit the ball, there's nothing you can do except hit it again.  I wish it didn't take me 1/4 of the round to remember that.

Ronnie B

How do y'all deal with frustration on the course. Yes I know we all can not hit the best shot every shot but what are some of y'alls tips and tricks to keep a level head throughout the round. I am shooting mid 80's to high/mid 70's right now and honestly my mental game is keeping me from being constantly in the 70's if not lower.  

I feel your pain. I did the same thing this weekend and I have thought about why my short game completely left me when I got within 30 yards of the green. You would not believe the hours I have spent chipping and pitching around the practice green to improve this weak link in my game. On my home course I now am very comfortable when I have a 10 to 30 yard pitch to the pin but this weekend I played a course I had never played before. It was a nightmare come true if I did not hit the green from the fairway and needed just a little pitch to get up and down. Before the round I was hitting the ball with no tension and being very relaxed on the practice tee but when the real game started I could feel the tension and tried to recapture the relaxed feeling I had earlier but I could not do it when I needed to get up and down. The bottom line is tension equals muscle tightness equals quick no rhythm swings which equals lost strokes. We need to be able to relax when we feel tension creeping into our bodies but how to that is still a mystery to me. At least I feel that I know the cause but have not found the cure.

I know all about frustration, I went from hitting in the upper 80's to Mid 90's...(Im a weekend warrior about 2-3 times a month) and I was progressively getting better, then all of a sudden now I cant break 100, but I feel so dang frustrated as well.  I know when I "think golf" when I am out there it definitely hinders me a lot.  If I just get up, hit the ball I do much better than thinking through every little detail of the shot.  Like a few others have said, that 6" between your ears plays havoc with us sometimes!!

Rejoice in that I'm not at work and start telling jokes.... It could always be worse, saw guys on the course in Palm Springs building new bridges on course  and it was 95 degrees and I'm swinging a club..

i just tell my self how lucky i am to be able to play this game and enjoy the company of good friends.  i am there to have fun and enjoy the sun and fresh air. 

If at all possible, I try to walk to my next shot after a bad one. I walk as much as I can, and even when I am riding in a cart, I'll take a deep breath and walk to my next shot to "reset" myself. All too often, I found myself hit a bad shot, rush over in the cart to the next shot to try and "make up" for the previous poor shot. This almost always resulted in another poor shot.

Walking to the ball gave me a bit of time to be upset at the shot, and then move on. I think it's unrealistic to not be frustrated, but that extra minute or two of walking really helped me to get ready for the upcoming shot.

Frustration is all in the head.  Stop thinking.  Just grab a club and hit the shot.  After all a golf balls only about an inch and a half, all ya' gotta do is send it into a wide gaping four inch hole in the ground.  They give you runways to that little hole, even stick a flag in the hole to make it easy.  Why would you hit a perfectly good ball into the woods, a gob of sand, a pond.  You can turn on the tv and watch hundreds of golfers show you just how easy the game is and they even get paid to do what's so obvious.

I think of things like that when I get frustrated.  If I've had one of my train wrecks sometimes I'll find a bench and light up a cigar and take a break and try to laugh off a bad hole.  Two bad holes in a row, I tear up the scorecard and just play for fun.  Honestly, nothing seems to work consistently.

I've often wondered if a hypnotist planted in your mind, keep your head down, keep the head steady thru impact, focus on the back of the ball, everything would fall in place.  I guess that if that would work we'd all be on tv.  So if you find the cure for frustration let us all know how its done.

I just finished reading the perfect book then.  It's called, " Fearless Golf " written by Dr. Gio Valiante.  In it it talks about a lot of things, frustration is part of it along with other ideas and beliefs that will help your mental game.  The book is entirely about the mental and psychological approach and dealing with all the results that golf provides, good and bad.  Read it, you will change how you deal with issues on the golf course and take them with you into the real world also.  Good luck.

When I play with my friends or for team matches we had like dumb code word so we could let each other know to just calm down, without actually saying "calm down" (because that never helps). Or if your by yourself just think of something funny or a saying that you can remember that will take your mind off the bad playing or golf for a little bit so you can just have fun instead of get more frustrated.

Hi Ronnie, what I usually do to keep myself focused throughout the round is just when you don't hit the shot you want, move on. You have to remember you'll have 50 more throughout the round and if you keep focusing on that shot it'll effect your whole game. Just remember, there's always a new hole ahead of you.